New data from Virgin Media O2 suggests that 3 in 5 (61%) actively dating singletons use their mobile phone to find a date every week, revealing a reliance on mobiles as an essential tool of modern dating. Despite this, more than half (51%) worry that they are still in the dark about dating styles and quirks when messaging a potential match, ultimately hindering their decision to know if they are the right person for them.
To help Brits utilise their mobile as a way to harness rather than harm their luck with dating experience, Mel outlines how best to spot potential red flags or positive signs by sharing the six dating personalities based on everyday mobile habits including ‘The Voice Note Knight’, with voice notes revealing thoughtfulness, bravery, and confidence; as well as the ‘Hasty-Handed Chatterbox’, whose multiple, quickfire messages reveal a spontaneous, cheeky, playful and opinionated character. On the other hand, ‘The Ghostly Hesitator’ is a warning sign, as nothing says non-committal more than someone who goes MIA.
Mel Schilling, Relationship Coach, TV Presenter and Consultant said: “Online dating can be a fun experience where you get to meet an array of different people and personalities. However, navigating this can be tricky. With phones being so integral to our everyday lives, our mobile habits and language can be a clear indicator of someone’s real self and dating personality – whether that’s their response speed, use of emojis and gifs, or message length. Understanding what these habits might say about your potential date will put you in good stead, giving you more confidence when digital dating.”
Mel shares her top tips on different digital dating personalities and how to navigate them:
How to approach this: If you’re not a voice note person yourself, don’t feel overwhelmed. You don’t need to replicate this! With many of us hating the sound of our own voice recorded, feel at ease that they’re confident and happy to share this with you. It might even encourage you to get involved and build your own confidence.
How to approach this: If this your style, then shoot away and tango together. However, if you’re the type of person where this grates on you, address it head on. It might be the case that they’re simply not used to this messaging style with others but are open to change. Hopefully, by showing that you group your own messages together consistently, they’ll get the hint. If you’re someone who is more concise with their responses and less frequent, maybe you can come to a compromise the more you get to know them.
How to approach this: Many of us love an emoji and sometimes they can express things better than words at a specific moment. If you’re also a visual person, then play along. However, definitely keep tabs on what kind of emojis they’re sending, how frequently and if you vibe with them. Some, for example, love a cheeky one whilst others might find it inappropriate.
How to approach this: Memes and gifs are great – if you understand them. They can reflect your date’s interests and perhaps any generational differences. If you don’t get the references, it can still be a fun and educational experience where you learn more about your date and expand your cultural knowledge in general. If they’re not hitting the spot, then address things directly or drop hints that you don’t understand them.
How to approach this: Whilst it might seem daunting, call them out on it (unless you’re equally as relaxed about messaging). Knowing where you stand is always a great place to be and helps to manage your expectations. If they hardly ever respond (and time length is a matter of personal opinion) then ditch. Don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t giving you the attention you deserve.
How to approach this: Enjoy all the fun dates that could come with this and the money you might save – especially if you’re someone who is equally as thrifty. However, if there are any other ideas that take your fancy that sit outside of this, then share them. We all have different financial situations and there’s a way to make things work.
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